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Mariport Gold

Our 16th annual Bengfort Family get together in Minnesota had some surprises this year. For trailer of this blockbuster, please check out the new Drunken Monkey Studio video at: Golden Anniversary Celebration . It was a blast as Gene and Elaine were completely surprised at having most of their wedding party at the event..the flower girl, the ring bearer who at the time thought he was getting married and was going on the honeymoon and the Maid of Honor who they had not seen in 50 years. She flew in from Arizona for the event after a sleuthing expedition worthy of the FBI. The surprise involved a game played by the siblings using information from the Postville write-up on the ceremony. Tough questions were answered by “experts” ala So You Want to be a Millionaire with a better host that Regis Philbin, in my opinion.

As you can see this is the second family video from Drunken Monkey Studios? Why drunken Monkey? No it was not because of all the spirits consumed at our get together. It was because of our 2nd Annual Washers Tournament organized by Nick. As the winning washers staggered and erratically landed into the hole, John stated..that’s a drunken monkey” shot.

So does your family get together annually for 16 years and still have a blast? We sure do. And for all those other Bengfort and extended family out there, join us sometime. It was great seeing Scott and Linda and Reg, Nell, Judy, Jerry, along with the regulars.

Untitled from lily bengfort on Vimeo.

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07 2011

Celebration Tri Inspiration

With my new imovie, I am having some fun with video. I am a newbie. Here is my first try with the Celebration Tri video.

Celebration Triathlon on Vimeo . I was truly inspired by Ben and Devi. Devi ran her first Tri. And Ben has done and is doing several with Team Fight in honor of our dear friend Michelle Krout who had Lymphoma. He started after she received her stem cell transplant and she passed away on June 2, 2012. She will be missed.

While Ben has been urging me to do a sprint tri this year, I am not ready as yet. I have been inspired to start small with my first 5K at the end of July. So you may see that later.

Hope you enjoy my first video.

Untitled from lily bengfort on Vimeo.

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07 2011

SoL Syllabus Redux

Well, part two of the School of Love Syllabus is now posted, and though we’re already one book in, the website was down until recently and we didn’t get it put up. You can download the PDF version: SoL Syllabus Redux, or check out the HTML version below. Also new, is that Ben now has a Kindle, so the Syllabus is only in terms of Kindle locations. If you need page numbers, let me know in the comments, and I’ll try to work it out!

Week of Title Kindle Location
March 23 The Postman Always Rings Twice to 1103
March 30 The Postman Always Rings Twice to end
April 6 Bonfire of the Vanities to 2728
April 13 Bonfire of the Vanities to 5326
April 20 Bonfire of the Vanities to 8081
April 27 Bonfire of the Vanities to 10634
May 4 Bonfire of the Vanities to end
May 11 Daemon to 1962
May 18 Daemon to 4011
May 25 Daemon to 6055
June 1 Daemon to end
June 8 Makers to 3229
June 15 Makers to 6243
June 22 Makers to end
June 29 Saul and Patsy to 1723
July 6 Saul and Patsy to 3509
July 13 Saul and Patsy to end
July 20 Stranger in a Strange Land to 2911
July 27 Stranger in a Strange Land to 5844
August 3 Stranger in a Strange Land to end
August 10 A Changed Man to 2363
August 17 A Changed Man to 4783
August 24 A Changed Man to end
August 31 Spies of the Balkans to 2447
September 7 Spies of the Balkans to end
September 14 A Discovery of Witches to 3065
September 21 A Discovery of Witches to 6020
September 28 A Discovery of Witches to 8694
October 5 A Discovery of Witches to end
October 12 Suite Francaise to 3450
October 19 Suite Francaise to end
October 26 The Adjustment Team to end
November 2 The Oracle of Stamboul to 2053
November 9 The Oracle of Stamboul to end
November 16 A Reliable Wife to 2120
November 23 A Reliable Wife to end
November 30 How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe to 989
December 7 How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe to 1959
December 14 How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe to end
December 21 The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao to 1449
December 28 The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao to 2903
January 4 The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao to end
January 11 The Tiger’s Wife to 1815
January 18 The Tiger’s Wife to 3521
January 25 The Tiger’s Wife to end
February 1 A Passage to India to 2448
February 8 A Passage to India to end
February 15 Never Let Me Go to 2322
February 22 Never Let Me Go to end
February 29 Starship Troopers to 2152
March 7 Starship Troopers to end

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04 2011

Life of Lily Interview Teaser

Devi’s Big Surprise

Devi goes to meet Andy at Dulles International Airport when:

10

11 2010

Happy Bethany-Devi Day!

I’m sure you all have been eagerly anticipating my Bethany-Devi Day poem, so of course I can’t disappoint!

As Devi mentioned, this year’s task was to do a Dr. Seuss-esque poem. Mine is actually based off of a specific Seuss poem, called “I love my job.” I would post the link here, but as I
posting this from my phone, I will assume you have the technological capacity to google it if you’re curious. Anyway, I love you Devi, both in spite of and because of what I’ve written below. :-)

I Love My Sister
Written by Bethany Bengfort, Parodied from Dr. Seuss

I love my sister, I must say!
I love her more and more each day
I love her dishes in the sink
I love her cat’s poo’s rancid stink
I love doing all the “assigned” chores
I love the gerbil noises when she snores
I love that she can eat and not gain a pound
While I have to diet almost year round
I love when my boyfriends tell me she’s hot
I love scrubbing out her two-week old pots
I love when I find that my clothes she has freed
from my closet the day that that outfit I need
I love that she clutters my laptop screen
and how in seconds she can go from rage to serene
I love waking up to her cat pounding my door
and the little presents he leaves on my floor
I love that for school she overly stresses
and that, unlike me, she has manageable tresses
I love that she eats lemon mix from the jar
and slams on the brakes when driving the car
I love that she never turns out the light
and that controlled tone of voice she has when we fight
Oh yes, my sister, I do love her so…
Wait, she’s getting married? No please, don’t go!

Happy Bethany-Devi day!

04

11 2010

Happy Bethany-Devi Day!

As per tradition, the day equidistant from Bethany’s and my birthday is known as Bethany-Devi Day, and we celebrate by writing each other poems. This year’s poetry theme is “Dr. Seuss.”

Enjoy, and Happy Bethany-Devi Day, Bethany!

No Sis, Sad ness

What would I do without my Sis?

My life would surely have less bliss

I would not have so much to eat

The house would surely be less neat

Without my sis how would I feel?

Sad, that I’d have less clothes to steal

No surprise cupcakes as a treat

One less follower of my tweets

On who else could I so depend

To come with me on an errand

To the vet, my she’s a trooper!

Even though the cat’s a pooper.

I do not know what I would do

I really, truly have no clue

If my sis weren’t in my life

Oh! My life would be rife with strife.

How I love you my sister dear

You fill my life with joy and cheer

I couldn’t live without your shine

I could not, would not, anytime.

04

11 2010

I’d Rather Be in a Swedish Prison

Jaci: Book number two, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, is complete!  And early, RIGHT BEN??

Ben: Stieg is an exciting writer–I couldn’t put it down because I kept wanting to see what happened next, so I kind of tore through it in way less than the allotted 3 weeks. Really, three weeks was a lot for this book, but I did pace myself somewhat, because I managed to stretch it to two weeks.

Jaci: I learned from my Kindle complaints during the last book–remembering that it was hard to flip back, the first thing I did was draw out the family tree from the early pages.  The notebook really came in handy.  And I found that I appreciate the anonymity the Kindle provides–when reading a book both wildly popular and gruesomely violent, I was happier not to converse about it with random strangers at the airport during my many hours waiting to board a red-eye to Maryland.

Ben: Jaci had a surprise visit home! But she discovered that my notebook was unused. My excuse is that I’m a reader, not an English major! Speaking of gruesomely violent (like when Jaci discovered the unused notebook…), towards the end of the book, I became less thrilled with the violence. Jaci mentioned that the original title was “Men who Hate Women”, and this is probably an apt description of the book, and while I’m desensitized to a lot of different kinds of violence thanks to TV, Stieg manages to properly shock you, and gives you an apprehension and disgust that takes talent to describe. The book attempts to take the edge off with humor and romance, but some sections were still tough on me.

Jaci: I didn’t make nearly as many notes for this book as I did for the last.  But I did use it as a meditation on translation.  The book isn’t exactly what most people would call “literary,” but I am a professed reading snob (and read like one–can’t help it), and it’s hard to know who to blame for, say, more than one cruise missile metaphor in a single chapter.  (Because someone must be blamed, sayeth the word nerd!)  And I also tended to wonder about cultural references.  The translator seems to have done a good job keeping the book as firmly grounded in Sweden as possible, and yet, at times I ask–when a reference to the Addams Family appears, is it because the Addams Family is culturally significant in Sweden or because the translator translated a cultural reference?  Considering my entire knowledge of Sweden is based on this book (which made Swedish prison sound like a writers’ colony retreat), a photograph of a farmstead at the local Noodles & Company (looks a lot like North Dakota), and some gifts Ben brought me after his Adobe Air Tour trip (tasty jam!  tiny painted horses!) I can honestly say I may be not just a bad but the worst person to judge.

Ben: I have actually been to Sweden! So I was amused at many references; in fact, I would argue that the translation was better than normal, simply because of the things that remained untranslated. For instance, holiday names were all untranslated, and the translator felt no burden with assisting English speakers with place names and Swedish proper names. It almost assumed a familiarity with Sweden that was very enjoyable, and also gave non-Swedish readers an education about Sweden without being overly pretentious about it. Jaci’s right, though, it is no literary masterpiece, but it is a good, quick, entertaining read. Jaci prefers to come out of a book being a better person for having read the book–which I suppose is a good thing. However, I like to be entertained by books more than anything else.

Jaci: I would classify this book as amusing, and I can understand why it was popular.  The real question: will we be reading the entire Millennium series?

Ben: Well, I’m interested and not interested in the rest of the Millennium series; interested because I want to find out more about the main character who is a hacker. She didn’t seem to be developed as well as she could have been in the first book, even though she was the girl with the dragon tattoo. Uninterested, because I don’t really want to put myself through the discomfort of reading descriptions of sexual violence.

Jaci: Next up: Ben’s most dreaded book on the list, Dead Souls by Gogol.  Lucky for him it is short (and we’ll actually be together when we’re reading it due to some scheduling vagaries that worked out in our favor).  It will be interesting to read another translated work, especially since the translation I chose wasn’t really a choice at all–only the Hogarth translation was available for Kindle at the time I put the list together.  Russian absurdist literature?  Given Ben’s affinity for French existential literature, I think he may enjoy it more than he expects.

26

08 2010

A Most Civilized Afternoon

A table set for tea

A table set for tea

As a family (and with a few select friends) we recently celebrated the many good things in our lives with an afternoon tea.

It was a smashing success.

The table was set with a white tablecloth, pale yellow napkins, and delicate tea things (including china cups from Britain, blush roses, and a two-tier plate of petite palmier and hand-dipped chocolate-covered strawberries).  Ben, with the assistance of many sous chefs, produced three kinds of cucumber sandwiches–mint, vinegar, and salmon mousse–as well as delightful scones and the aforementioned strawberries.  Two kinds of caviar were served.  We even indulged in two varieties of English tea and great quantities of sparkling wine.

With an all-star guest list featuring Randy and Lily, the recently returned Devi and Bethany, Lindsay, Ben, and friends Lala (a recent transplant from Seattle to Baltimore) and Adam (in D.C. for the summer before his return to New Haven), conversation was spirited.  The background music was a mix of classical, instrumental, French and eastern European, along with a few select poems.

I’ll leave it to Ben to post his favourite recipes of the day, which truly elevated the occasion–as I had planned merely to slather some cream cheese on rye with a slab of cucumber and call it elegant (which would of fooled none).  I will however leave you with a few photos of the grand affair, and highly encourage you to try such a party for yourself!  Bow ties not required…but encouraged.

22

08 2010

The Train Ride from Shanghai to Xining

When forced to travel by train for 32 hours in a hard seat, it is necessary to have a strategy. A strategy for comfort, a strategy for boredom, and a strategy for sanity. Step one is to make friends with your neighbors so that they help you with your bags and give you snacks, and will make sure that no one takes your seat when you get up to use the bathroom. My strategy for making friends was being as helpless and incompetent as possible. My seatmeat was a young girl who worked in a factory in Shanghai and was traveling to her hometown in Xi’an (a 22 hour ride for her). I was pleased that she was small, friendly and quiet. Across the aisle was a Muslim woman with two small daugthers. Another plus, women are more friendly, motherly, and don’t smoke. Directly across from me were two male youths, who were sharing one seat, switching places to stand every hour or so. In the other seat across from me was a woman who promptly put her head down on the table and didn’t speak to anyone. (Here I should mention that the train had three seats on one side of the aisle, two seats on the other, the seats facing each other with a small table in the center). I zeroed in on the youths and the factory girl for being my most likely comrades. They helped me shove my humongous bicycle bag under the seat, when I made a rather realistic show of being unsure where to put it. I also told them it was my first time in a hard seat, and they did small things to make sure I was comfortable, such as giving me the window seat (my ticket was originally for the aisle seat) and giving me the most room to lay my head down on the table. They also shared their snacks of peaches and sunflower seeds, and I in turn shared my wet wipes, and gave up my seat from time to time so both of the youths could eat sitting down when they were ready for a meal. Give a little, get a little, that is always the moto for train rides in China.

The other strategy is managing your time. When to eat, when to use the bathroom, when to read, when to sleep. As using the bathroom was such an ordeal (since you had to fight your way through the crowds with standing only tickets blocking the aisle), I drank water on a timetable so I would only have to get up to use the bathroom a maximum of five times. Sleep of course was impossible, so instead I had to doze or meditate. I had two iPods with me, one borrowed from a friend, so I could tune everything out for the entire train ride without worrying about battery life. My strategy for staying sane was to go into a zenlike trance, keeping my head down and my earpods in to keep the sight and sound of the craziness around me at bay. My boss at the Consulate, upon hearing of my insane train ride, had also given me a gift of minty oil that was supposed to be used for alleviating headaches, but worked like a charm for masking the smell of unwashed masses. I applied it to my wrists and temples about ten times during the ride, and it worked for the most part to help me forget that the train car I was in was just a few degrees better than a chattel car. I made it through the night, which I rightfully reckoned would be the hardest part, and spent the next day reading my kindle. Andy called a few times and told me with surprise that I sounded chipper. I probably was just spaced out. In the last few hours of the train ride, I felt that I could re-engage with the world, and took my earpods out to walk up and down the aisle (as best as I could) and converse with people. I got up, and tried to wake up my sleeping feet. I looked down at my ankles and nearly screamed in horror. My feet and ankles had swollen to nearly three times their regular size! If you had seen just my feet, you might have thought I was a three hundred pound woman. I had some serious cankles. Really freaked out, I called Andy, who did an Internet search and told me it was a symptom of dehydration, and that I should drink more water and do some ankle exercises. I did, but they didn’t return to normal for another day. But, in the end I survived the 32 hour train ride with my sanity and most of my body parts intact!

Six hours later I picked up Andy’s dad and his dad’s girlfriend from the airport, and 12 hours and 130 km later I exhaustedly but happily wrapped my arms around Andy in a small town called Gonghe, from whence we would start our bike adventure the next day!

(And in case you were wondering, I went ahead and spent two thousand kuai on a flight back to Shanghai, there is no way that I would ever, ever, ever, do that train ride again! You only need so much character-building exercises in your life)

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08 2010